It is always a pleasure to collaborate with other wedding vendors for our clients weddings. It is just as fun to collaborate together on styled shoots of what we hope to see in the future trends for our clients. This shoot is no different! An incredible collaboration over all and I had so much fun dreaming up this invite suite for this colorful, city wedding!
Find all the images and more information on each vendor over on Lakeshore in Love Blog today!
What is more gorgeous than engagement photos in classic NYC? A beautiful elopement captured with a mix of classic and modern city backdrops. This beautiful shoot was the concept of Sophie Kaye Photography and photographed by April and Mike Raymond. Find the complete vendor list at the end of these gorgeous photos.
This beautiful shoot combines modern wedding silhouettes and florals among the backdrop of traditional and timeless New York City architecture. Playing off the mix of modern and classic, I kept the suite simple with pops of florals to bring in modern, desaturated color. To finish off the announcement and highlight the calligraphy I added romantic touches of the floral, vellum jacket, a wax seal with gold foil and dried florals, and you can just make out a black and white photo of Washington Square Park that graces the backside of the announcement with the couples custom wedding monogram.
Personalized vow books are the right touch for any elopement. Store your handwritten vows in a beautiful booklet with your monogram and wedding date to preserve your words for years to come. They additionally give you a beautiful, clean way to hold your vows that won’t stand out for the wrong reasons in your photos.
Not exchanging written vows? Personalize the booklet with your monogram and date and use the booklet to store a note to your partner about your marriage and love story.
Photo @aprilandmikeraymond
Planning & Concept @sophiekayephotography
Model @amanda.larson_
Floral Designer @navafloral
Hair & Makeup @bymadelineeleanor
Gown Designer @pninatornai
Gown Boutique @kleinfeldbridal
Ring Box’s @thestylingreserve @the_mrs_box
Shoes @jimmychoo
Jewelry @chanelofficial
Stationery @linalulupaperie
Coffee @ralphscoffee
What a fun surprise to pick up a Modern Luxury this week in Chicago and find my work published! Check out both my calligraphy and stationery featured in Modern Luxury Weddings, Chicago from The Big Fake Wedding, Chicago 2021 event!
Anna asked me about creating a family tree chalkboard for the wedding that had been posted toned due to the pandemic. I loved this sweet and beautiful tribute idea to their families and the family of their own they were honoring by being wed.
Photo by Max Warren
Photo by Max Warren
Photo by Max Warren
The chalkboard at Chicago's Bridge 410 was the perfect blank canvas for Anna and Max to pay tribute to their parents and grandparents through a family tree, illustrated in chalk. This piece was a beautiful backdrop to their April 30th wedding reception and celebration.
Photo by Max Warren
Photo by Max Warren
Michael and Lauren were married this past winter at the gorgeous Room1520 in Chicago, IL. I loved being able to write out their bar menu, complete with monogram and specialty drinks including the “Olive Love You” Dirty Martini and the “Barrera-ita” Margarita—a play off the new couples last name.
The monogram and type was carried over to the couples reception seating chart where I matched the calligraphy and font from the seating chart print outs to fill in the mirror space below.
Congrats Lauren and Michael!
Photos by Courtney Cimo
How fun is this wedding chalkboard on New Year’s Eve? It is always fun to help a client’s idea come to life. For Jen and Nathan they wanted more of the party feel to continue onto the chalkboard. We added fireworks, florals and fun sparkles to match the NYE vibes.
Congratulations to Jennifer and Nathan!
On a warm August night, a handful of vendors came together for a gorgeous vow renewal on the rooftop of Lacuna Lofts under a gorgeous floral arch.
The invitations and paper good were inspired by traditional Moroccan patterns and colors as well as the lush colors of the florals. I loved getting to pull in warm tones to a lighter palette with the contrast of a deep wine color as the RSVP envelope. To add a hint of glamor and a little more elegance, the calligraphy is done in a metallic gold with the invitation foiled in a warm gold.
The theme continued on the beautiful table scapes with arched menus in the same sand color pulled from the invite palette with mimicked arched acrylic placards, bringing in a pop of green to this already stunning table.
CAKES & CATERING:
CEREMONY MUSICIANS:
FAVORS & GIFTS:
FLORAL, DESIGN, & DAY OF COORDINATOR, TABLES 1 & 2:
FLORALS & DESIGN- CEREMONY BACKDROP, TABLES 4 & 5:
FLORALS & DESIGN- TABLE 3 & BOUQUETS:
GROOM & HIS MEN:
HAIR, MAKEUP & BEAUTY:
LIGHTING, ENTERTAINMENT & PHOTO BOOTH:
FEMPRESS Fit | @fempressfit
Hitched Wedding Bands | @tryhitched
Lavish Exposure Photobooth | @lavish_exposure
OFFICIANTS:
PAPER GOODS & CALLIGRAPHY:
SIGNAGE:
VENUES:
VIRTUAL VENDOR:
WEDDING DJ:
WEDDING DRESSES:
WEDDING FILMS:
WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHERS:
This gorgeous styled shoot is the perfect inspiration for any Spring or Summer wedding. The earthy tones and sweet pops of pink and green are perfect for any locations. Find the full gallery and feature here!
Planning + Styling:K & K Celebrates, @kandkcelebrates
Photography:Ashlyn Henry, @ashlynhenry_
Floral:Fleur, @fleurinc
Cotton Candy Cart:Bubbly Events , @bubblyeventschicago
Stationery: Lina Luna Paperie @linalunapaperie
Bridal Gowns: Jenny Yoo, @jennyyoonyc
Bridesmaids Dresses:Jenny Yoo, @jennyyoonyc
Models:Madison (Bride) @madisonannx , Ashley (Bridesmaid) @ashmow , Cacha (Bridesmaid) no instagram Hair + Make Up: Goldplaited, @goldplaited_
Jewelry:La Kaiser Jewelry @lakaiserjewelry
Cake + Sweets:Toni Patisserie, @tonipatisseriecafe
Rentals: Halls, @hallsrental Venue:Eden , @edeninchicago
Linens: BBJ, @bbjlinen and La Tavola, @latavolalinen
Another gorgeous shoot from the minds of Kristie and Kim at K and K Celebrates wedding planning! This beautiful mix of Grandmillennial and boho vibes has just a touch of romanticism that pulls is all together. I loved using the beautiful floral tablecloth as the main inspiration for the stationery. The toile inspired illustrations carried over from the invite onto the placecards at the table with a touch of pink in the calligraphy.
Planning + Styling: @kandkcelebrates
Photography: @ashlynhenry__
Stationery: @linalulupaperie
Floral: @michaelamantarian
Rentals: @hallsrental
Venue: @chezweddingvenue
Linens: @bbjlinen
Cake: @tonipatisseriecafe
Menus, should you have them or not? When it comes to weddings, the esthic and design of your reception is the largest portion of time people will focus on, and rightfully so! Though I will always say the ceremony is THE most important aspect of the wedding, your reception is where your personality and the design of the day really gets to shine. The small details add up to big impact and that includes menus!
These informational pieces do not have to be boring! Consider them to pull double duty and use them to include:
Guests place cards
Thank you note from you as the couple
A place to request a card and hand it in to the DJ
Additionally these do not have to stay a simple rectangle. Consider other elements in your day such as arches or making the menu fit in the charger of your guests place setting. These details are so fun and won’t go unnoticed by your guests!
There are a lot of terms when it comes down to planning your wedding and the day-of items involved. With traditional rules being “broken” more casually these days for formal weddings, the terms you are hearing can easily be combined or misinterpreted. A casualty of these “broken rules” are place cards and escort cards. These two terms are often interchangeably used, but did you know they are actually two different things?
Place cards are used to assign seating and are placed at the place setting for the guest to find at the table. They contain a single guest’s name, no table number but can include a meal choice indicator. They can help the serving staff at a formal sit-down dinner to know which meal you have chosen for the evening. They are often used at more formal or black-tie weddings.
Escort cards are used to direct your guest or guests to the table they will be sitting at. These cards traditionally will have the couple’s name together or the single guest’s name along with the table number. This is essentially a seating chart in individual cards as they will be set-up in the reception hall, typically towards the entrance. If you do not have specific place cards at the table, these help guests “reserve” their spot at the table to ensure they can sit by whom they like or the direction they would like to face. Though they can be used alongside a place card at an event, they are viewed as the casual alternative to a place card if used alone. If need be, they too can hold the meal choice to helpt the serving staff indicate food allergies or special meal requests for the guest.
An alternate choice for both a place card and escort card can be a seating chart. Seating charts are a large board, mirror, or another beautiful art piece that displays all your guest’s names and which table they will be sitting at. These make beautiful decor pieces for your reception and can cut down on the use of paper for your event and/or free up space if you do not have room for another table to place your escort cards on. A seating chart is typically used at a wedding when the guest count is too large for escort cards and/or when the wedding guests didn’t have an option to select their entree in advance. This style of seating is perceived as more casual, but can also be used in tandem with a place card.
I am often asked if both escort cards and place cards are necessary, or if they should scrap both and go with a seating chart. Guests want to know where they are sitting and often will look for their seats first thing at a reception to place down purses or to get a “good” spot to view the important events.
Here are my tips for you to help decide what fits best for you:
If you are having a smaller wedding, 30-50 people or under, I would advise a seating chart. Then based on how you have your tables, I would also recommend place cards for a small wedding to help get the more important guests (such as parents, grandparents, etc.) to the spots that they can see all the special events without obstruction. Nobody should be blocking mom or making grandma crane her neck to see the cake cutting.
Example of place card
If your venue is asking you to use a card for meal purposes, traditionally a place card would be used alongside an escort card or seating chart. For a less formal feel, you may use an escort card and place an icon (as seen above) or letter such as “F” for fish to help the serving staff quickly decipher the meal for each guest.
If you choose to use both an escort card and a place card, ensure that the two look different. For your place cards, instead of a traditional paper card, choose a unique item that can add to your tables decore such as a seashell, tile, leaf, or a sentimental favor with their name attached on a tag (See example below). Guests will be delighted by these unique items and they take them home as personalized favors!
Example of unique place card for guests.
Regardless of the direction, you take your guest seating, I always advise you have a seating plan. From formal place cards that direct guests to the correct seat, to the less formal escort card to direct guests to the right table, make a clear plan with whoever is setting up your reception. This will ensure your reception gets off on the right foot.
You wouldn’t think so but the reception is the largest and most informational heavy part of your day. Cutting out signs or information might seem like a good idea when planning then the wedding, but you will have your guests miss out on important details because they never knew they were there in the first place.
Here is an overview of what you should provide at your reception and in the weeks to come I’ll be talking about more examples and specifics. Find a complete list of papergoods for your wedding here, including reception paper goods!
Last week we talked all about the signs needed for your ceremony and your reception. To recap here are the most common signs to include :
Welcome sign
Guestbook sign, especially if it is an interactive guestbook like signing a puzzle piece or wanting more than a name.
Cards and Gift location
Directional sign for cocktail hour, bathrooms, etc. for larger venues or venues that have multiple weddings happening at once.
Favor signs
Photobooth signs
Drink Signs for the bar if there is a special cocktail
Labels for any food items such as dessert table, snacks, or food truck
We’ve talked about the paper goods to set up and get your guests to your wedding, now what are you to have at your wedding to help provide special touches and communicate to your guests about your day? Let’s start with the ceremony.
Ceremony programs are an informational tool to help guests know what to expect but are optional for you to have. There are two great options for programs if you opt to have them at your ceremony; paper programs or a program board.
Printed programs are great for more involved ceremonies or religious leaning services where the guests will be able to join in traditions such as a song, call and response readings, or communion. Programs also help you honor your bridal party and family involved by listing their names and potentially how you know them. This space too gives you the option to honor family members who are deceased publicly and acknowledge their absence on your big day.
Having a paper program can also allow you to add some special information for your guests such as a thank you note from the couple, the address for the reception if it is not in the same location, and even a new address for the couple if they have just moved in together. Often these style of programs are thought of traditional and are a sweet memento of your day to place in your future wedding photo album or keepsake box.
Photographers: Aaron and Jillian Photography Wedding Stationery: Silver Starfish
Program boards are a beautiful alternative option for more modern or laid back weddings. They still allow you to honor your bridal party and family members who have been by your side by listing their names and help the guests know the order of the ceremony. These are typically placed at the back of the ceremony or church for guests to read as they walk in to find their seats.
Your names and date of the wedding
Location of the wedding
Names of the officiant, bridal party members, and each family member you would like to honor. Typically this includes the parents and grandparents of each partner.
Ceremony schedule. Allow your guests to follow along to understand what is coming up next. Such items include processional, readings, songs, and vows.
Directions and address to reception.
Your love story or other fun details about you as a couple
Your new address as a couple
A note to unplug during the ceremony
Include bubbles, rose petals, or confetti when you hand out your program for when you walk back down the aisle as a married couple
Now it’s up to you whether you want to include a program or not. If you do choose to have one, make sure you include the basics like a running order of events and details about your wedding party.
Remember your wedding is a time to celebrate a joyful step in life and honor you as a couple. What you choose to include should do just that—honor your love story, personalities and create keepsakes (such as a wedding program) that you, your partner, and your guests will truly enjoy!
Here is the beautiful second shoot from the minds of K and K Celebrate! I love the mixture of prints, dusty pinks, and accents of metals that touch the table. The gorgeous florals mix perfectly with the glass accents that accentuate the light flooding throughout the venue. I loved getting to use a mixture of paints, calligraphy, and watercolor for all the paper goods! By using florals and textured paint strokes to create a pattern, the paper goods felt enhanced but not too over done.
The incredible team includes:
Planning: K and K Celebrates
Photography: 606 Photo
Grazing Boxes: Sage and Jam |
Floral: FleurInc
Venue: DL Loft, Chicago
Bubbly Wall: Bubbly Events Chicago
The perfect mix of elegance, romance and a dash of modern!
Envelopes are one of my FAVORITE paper goods! They can add so much to the experience of receiving your invite, not to mention build anticipation for your guest to open the envelope to see what’s inside. There are endless combinations and styles to choose from, but let me talk you through a few of the common ones.
I rarely miss an opportunity to talk about having a calligraphed envelope for your wedding. When else do you have such an open opportunity to make an envelope look extra special?
Calligraphy is a beautiful and timeless option for your envelopes, but not the most inexpensive. Since there are a variety of calligraphy options, you can truly match the feel of your wedding to the style of calligraphy you would like to have on your envelope.
Since calligraphy is hand-done, it will take longer to have ready to send immediately. I’ll let you on a little trick: Take your Save the Date spreadsheet of addresses, add any additional guests and pass it on to your calligrapher as soon as possible. Once you have picked out your envelopes, order them and send them to your calligrapher. They can have them done right when your invites are getting printed or even earlier. This will keep your wedding timeline going smoothly and allow your calligrapher enough time to get them done with our adding rush fees—win, win!
To find my calligraphy styles and prices check here!
Calligraphy may not fit your wedding vibe or even may not fit your budget. A beautiful and cost-effective option is having your address printed on the envelopes. You can also try printing the proper address and write the name in calligraphy to add a modern but elegant touch. These two combinations can create a more cost effective but equally stunning outcome that you’re looking for. This option is also a time saver if you are getting married in a shorter time period than typical or time is running low on when to get your invites out.
Adding extra detail to your envelopes can be a fun way to make them more personal and infuse your style. Here are a few ideas on what to add:
Envelope liners: Once used to block the inside contents of an envelope, these additional pieces are a beautiful way to add color, texture, and elegance to your envelope and invite suites.
Wax Seals: These are fun additions to close ( or seal) your envelope with, but can be costly in the long run both in expense and the time the envelope will make it to your guest.
Decoration: This, in my opinion, is always a great option! From handpainted details like the envelope below to small printed flowers on the envelope flap, make your envelope your own! The options are endless.
As your stationer, I would love to walk you through the additions you can add to your envelopes without making costly mistakes such as wrong address formatting or other mailing faux pas.
Stamps are the most important detail of your envelope! With out them they will not get very far to your guests. There are a variety of stamps from USPS that are perfect for any suite. If you are looking for vintage stamps, remember to make sure the total adds up to modern day postage price. I also suggest finding a beautiful theme ( such as botanicles or travel) or color combination ( like the pink and gold below) to make them pop off your envelope.
A few last items to considerations with envelopes are:
Shape: Anything outside a rectangle will cost more in postage.
Address: Whatever way you choose to address your envelope, make sure it is readable, in the correct area on the envelope, and you include a return address.
Thickness matters! Make sure you are aware of what you are putting in the envelope and that the envelope is the right material to hold it all.
Color: Don’t forget color is an option for your envelopes.
Have questions or concerns about envelopes? I would love to help you, just let me know your questions below!
This past winter I had the pleasure of working with K and K Celebrates, a talented sister team based out of Chicago for two styled shoots. These two dreamy concepts were so fun to work with and create concepts for! The first one was this elegant, frosty blue color-scheme with hints of silver, white, and a pop of red florals.
The incredible team includes:
Planning: K and K Celebrates
Photography: 606 Photo
Grazing Boxes: Sage and Jam |
Floral: FleurInc
Venue: DL Loft, Chicago
These beautiful grazing boxes by Sage and Jam serve as both a great cocktail hour solution, but a fun way to make sure all guests receive and locate their seats with their escort cards.
To add a special touch to the bar, I illustrated this mulled wine drink. How delicious does the real thing look? Yum!
It was a dream to design these fun, patterned invites for this gorgeous shoot! Elisabeth from Ivory + Beau approached me to create this design first with a fun Marti Gras inspired design and summer color. As the shoot was pushed from July to early Fall, the colors darkened but the gorgeous pattern play and art deco feel didn't! I know if I got married today, this dress and venue would be a strong contender in my planning! Check out more of the inspiration and pictures at the Low Country Wed Blog.
PHOTOGRAPHY l Izzy + Co.
PLANNING & STYLING | Ivory + Beau
GOWN & FLORAL | Ivory + Beau
VENUE | The Clyde
PAPERIE | Lina Lulu Paperie
CAKE & PASTRIES | Sugar Whisk Co.
MOBILE BARISTA | Origin Coffee Bar
EVENT RENTALS | Bounce, Play, Love Event Rentals
BRIDAL ACCESSORIES | Anna Roses Atelier
HAIR & MAKEUP | Megan Anslie Johnson
MODEL | Victoria Gutierrez
Today’s Wise Wedding advice is going to be simple and to the point. Weddings can be expensive, and people often don’t fully understand everything that goes into planning a wedding. This can include not understanding how many people a reception hall allows, RSVPing in a timely manner, and frankly who you actually want to be there on your day.
We want to make sure it is clear to the recipient who the invite is actually inviting. The easiest solution is clearly writing or printing out every guest who you expect to attend on the mailing envelope of the save the date and the invitation. This will provide clarity early on for the guests. If you are wanting to have an entire family/household attend including children, use wording such as "The Williard Family” or write out each name “ Mr. and Mrs. John Williard, Jonothan, Mary and Sarah”. If you would like just the adults to attend, use the wording “Mr. and Mrs. John Willard”. This implies they are the only ones expected to attend. For those with a plus one or a significant other who you would like to attend, write “Jonothan Willard and Guest” or if you know their partner’s name, go ahead and address it directly to the two of them.
For formal weddings, you can use an inner envelope and again write out each name of the people you would like to attend. For those with a plus one, the address envelope should just state the guests name and the inner envelope is the correct space to add the words “and guest” for the parties with who you have given one.
If you would like to go a step further, as talked about last week, you can fill in the number of guests or directly write the guest’s names on the RSVP card who you are expecting to attend.
This may be slightly controversial, but I know most couples have a B-list of guests. Whichever way you fall on this choice if you are to send out invites to anyone on your B-List make sure to print extra invitations and have the RSVP card have a later return date. This will ensure that those guests will have a resturn date that is later than when they receive their invitation. Remember, whoever receives a Save the Date should always receive an invitation, but those who receive an invite do not always have to have a save the date.
To ensure that your RSVPs get back to you, don’t forget to address the return envelope to the correct person and stamp your RSVP envelope. This simple courtesy will cut out the extra step of guests needing to buy a stamp and will help your RSVP return to you in a timely manner.
In the case of an online RSVP, make sure directions are clear and web address is easily typed out.
In the last few weeks, I have talked through how important the invitation is, how to word the invitation but many people get tripped up on what to include WITH the invite suite. Today we are talking through the “extra” cards you include in an invitation suite to help your guests fill in the rest of the information gaps. These cards also keep the questions to you, your forever love, and your parents to a minimum—hooray!
The cards that most often get included in a suite are the RSVP card, a Details card and an accommodations insert. Let’s break down what is most important for each:
This item is a separate card that guests mail back to you to let you know if they will be or will not be attending your wedding. These cards are traditionally a one-sided card with the RSVP date, a line to fill in the name of your guest, and a “yes” or “no” to circle or a check box to mark off. Other items that can appear on the card can include a meal choice or a spot to have guests write in a song for the DJ to play.
(Helpful tip: To avoid an uncomfortable conversation or unexpected guest, you can write the expected guests’ names on the RSVP before sending it out. This will help your guests know who is invited, especially guests with children of a certain age or a possible plus one. To make it clear for guests who can bring a date, you can pre-write the guest’s name and the wording “& Guest”, “and plus one”, or have a line for a number of guests and fill in the correct number for them on the RSVP to help them know if they truly have the option to invite a date. We will explore the wording of this in the upcoming Wise Wedding entries. )
RSVP cards are most often sent with an accompanying envelope addressed to the couple (or the person in charge of guest count) and a stamp. For more casual weddings, an RSVP postcard can be used as well. Remember to include a stamp with either choice for your guests.
If you are asking your guests to RSVP through your wedding website, you can still include an RSVP sized card with no envelope in the invite suite. This typically one sided card would contain the address and how-to directions to RSVP on your website. You can also add this information to the details card to cut costs.
Your RSVP date should be set 1 month prior to your wedding date. As discussed in Wise Wedding: Tackle Your Wedding Paper Goods Timeline, always check with your event space and caterer for when they need a final guest count.
Your details card or insert is an additional card to include with your invite and RSVP card. This strictly informational card helps guests understand additional expectations or helps draw attention to anything about your wedding/weekend that they need to be aware of ahead of the day. Many couples now have a wedding website that addresses these concerns and contains the same information. The details card can include this website address, as well as the information you think your guests might miss if they don’t visit your website.
Often these cards are sent with the invitation but can be sent ahead of the time with the Save the Date if important information is needed to conveyed sooner. Such information could be to book accommodations or flights ASAP for a destination wedding, if your wedding date is over a holiday, or is in the same city as a busy event such as Mardi Gras or the Super Bowl.
Other items to include on the details card(s) include:
If your reception is in a different location than your ceremony, formal etiquette says to leave the address and that information off your invite and place the reception address on the insert.
Wedding website address
Accommodations and if you have room block information such as a date to book by or a code provided by the hotel to give a discount to guests.
Transport information, such as shuttle busses to the wedding or airport location
Attire. Here you can let know guests to wear a “casual cocktail” or if you have a mostly grass location to advise them to wear sandals or flats, etc.
Parking or driving information if it is out of the norm or would be hard to find. This could include parking garage information for city locations, signs to look for, or special instructions for locations such as a friend’s house, national park, or more secluded location.
Special instructions for the venue, time of year, or whether instructions (such as if it rains where the ceremony will be held ).
Registry information. Though it is not traditional to include registry info with your invite, the details card would be the best location to do so.
Other items you can include in your details insert are special wedding weekend activities such as a welcome cocktail party, wedding brunch, or afternoon picnic. If not all guests are invited to these events, include them on different cards and insert them into your wedding invitation suite.
Make sure to include a heading on your card for guests to easily identify. This can be as simple as the words “Details” or something like “More information” or “We’d Like You to Know…”. If the card is more themed such as directions or weekend details, use those headings for guests to see.
The fun thing about your details card is that since you are not fitting it into its own envelope, you can design it in a more “fun” style and shape. The only rule of thumb is to keep it smaller than the invite to give the invite precedents. You can have a half-circle, a folded card, or a two-sided, skinny card—it’s up to you! Allow the design to be functional, but compliment the vibe of your wedding and invitation suite.
Not all weddings have multiple items for the guests to be aware of. One of the more important pieces of info to get to guests is the accommodations. This information can be on a separate card or the oppiste side of the details card if need be. This separate card can be helpful if you have multiple hotels at different price points or for destination weddings to include airports and rental car information.
As discussed earlier, I’m seeing more couples are choosing to have a wedding website as a one-stop place for all things wedding weekend information for their guests. To help your guests know the address you have a few options:
As previously mentioned, include it on a RSVP style card and have guests RSVP on your website.
Include the address on the details card with wording such as “Find all wedding weekend information at www….” or “Please visit or wedding website for all information at www…” This is best for more traditional weddings where you use your details card to list only important information such as booking accommodations and reception address. You then can use your website to list such things as directions to the venue, registry information, and other items for your weekend on the website instead of the details insert.
Include a separate wedding website insert card with just the website address for guests and wording such as “For more information, please visit: www….” This insert card would be the smallest of the insert cards included in your invitation suite.
The last item you can insert is a map for your guests. This is especially a fun detail for destination weddings or if the majority of guests are from out of town. I will discuss maps more in the upcoming weeks.
If you have any questions on insert cards or interested in me designing your wedding suite, contact me here!
Though many weddings these days walk the fine line of traditional and breaking “the rules”, one important category of rules to follow is what to include in your invitations, specifically the wording.
Many people choose to go traditional on the wording without considering the origin of the order of the invitation wording. Today, I will be breaking down the way an invite is written and common phrasing you can use.
The opening line of your invite is the space which indicates the host or hosts of the wedding. Traditionally, a bride parent’s would pay for the wedding and they would be considered the host of the wedding and party. Thus the common phrase for the host line would read:
“ Mr. and Mrs. Jam invites you to celebrate the wedding of their daughter…”
Now, in our modern times, many couples are opting to pay for their own wedding, or receiving financial contributions from one or multiple parents. Here are a few helpful tips to navigate your wording:
If you (the couple to be wed) are paying for your wedding, you do not have to include a host line.
The word “and” between two names traditionally implies the two people are married
Very Formal: Mr. and Mrs. David Charles Jam…
Formal: Mr. and Mrs. David Jam… OR Mr. and Mrs. David and Cheryl Jam…
Casual: David and Cheryl Jam…
If your parents are divorced, keep both names on a separate line, with the mother’s name first. You still keep both names on separate lines, even if they are not remarried
If just one divorced parent is hosting, their name is included on the first line
If you are including a name of a step-parent, include it on the same line as their partner
Not Remarried:
Mrs. Cheryl Jam
Mr. David Jam
Remarried with Step-Parent(s)
Mrs. Cheryl Jam Davis and Mr. Joseph Davis,
Mr. David Jam
Both Sets of Parents:
Very Formal:
Mr. and Mrs. David Charles Jam
and Mr. and Mrs. Stephen Matthew Berd
Formal:
Mr. and Mrs. David Jam
and Mr. and Mrs. Stephen Berd
Casual:
David and Cheryl Jam
with Stephen and Jessica Berd
( Note: Different'-sex couples the bride’s parents are named first then the groom’s parents. In same-sex couples, the preference of who’s parent’s name is first is up to the couple or how it looks best with the design of the invite.
If all parents are financially contributing, place the bride’s parents first and then groom’s parents names
Names should not be listed in order of who is financially contributing more
Hosts who are not married should have names on separate lines
If you choose to include a deceased parent name, you will need to rearrange the wording as they can not actually serve as host. A common way to honor the deceased parent is to put it alongside the child’s name such as “ Marie Elizabeth Jam, Daughter of David Jam” or “ Marie Elizabeth Jam, Daughter of the late David Jam”
You can exclude the formal titles, i.e. Mr. or Mrs. for a more casual wording option
If the couple is paying with some assisitance from either parents or no assitance, use one of these common phrases:
The Couple is Paying:
with their parents:
Together with their families…
Together with our parents…on their own:
With great joy…
With full hearts…
The honor of your prescence is requested at the wedding of…
<Name of couple> invite you to share in their joy…
After the host line, you include a request line. This line is asking your guests to join you at this joyous occasion, and set’s the tone for your wedding. This wording can range from super formal to casual. The tone can be conveyed in the style of wording you choose to go with. Such as:
The phrase “honor of your presence” notes a religious aspect to your ceremony.
The phrase “pleasure of your company” notes a non-religious ceremony.
For a more formal wording, you can use such words as honor, pleasure, or cordially, i.e. “…request the honor of your presence…” or “…cordially invite you to the wedding of…”
For more casual wording, use phrases such as “love for you to join”, “joyfully request…”, “invite you to celebrate…” or “invite you you to join the celebration…”
For a very casual wedding, use phrases such as “would love your company…”, “join in the festivities…” or “want you to come party with …”
Now that you have established the host and formally asked your guest to join you, let them know what they are joing to celebrate, or more accuratly—who.
Traditinally this is the line where the parents of the bride ask the guest to join them “ at the marriage of their daughter…”
If both parents are hosting, the line would read, “ at the marriage of their children…”
If you as the couple are hosting, the phrasing may include “ as they say "‘I DO’; “as they join in the union of marriage…” or “as they celebrate their marriage…”
The most important information on the invite might seem the easiest, but there are a few items to decide on.
For differnet-sex couples, the brides name is traditionally listed first. If her parents are hosting, her first and middle name can just be listed with out her maiden name followed by the grooms full name and then his parents names.
For same-sex couples, you can list the names by choice or alphabetically. If one set of parent’s is listed as the host, put their child’s name first.
Writting out full names are often regarded as formal. For a less formal feel, opt to only include fist and last name or first and middle names when parents names are listed as well.
The date and time are staright forward, but just as the other portions of your invite, you mst decide how formal you would like to have it.
Traditionally, the date and time are fully written out, incuding the year
The day and month should be capatilized, and the year should be lower-case.
The time should be spelled out. If your time is on the half-hour, using “half-after” is more traditional. Using “half-past” or the word”thirty” after the time is the more casual version.
Evenings begin at five o’clock. You do not have to state “morning”, “afternoon” or “evening” unless it falls btween 8, 9 , or 10 as these could be morning ceremony times. You can state the time and then the pharse “in the evening…” but it is not necessary or traditional.
These rules can be broken in more contemporary designs.
This information of location follows the date and time on your invite.
For the ceremony, list the venue name on one line, and on a seperate following line include the city and state fully written out.
If you are having the ceremony and recption at the same place, use the phrase “ Reception to Follow” or “ Dinner and Drinks to follow” to let guests know on the followling line.
If you are having the recepetion at a seperate location, let your guests know by only including the venue name and not the address on the invite on the line below the ceremony information. You can include a reception card with the additional information of address or any parking information.
This line can be used to again let your guests know the formality of the recption with phrases such as “Dinner, dancing and merriement to follow”, or “An evenign of celebration to follow”
If you are not serving a full meal, use this space to notify the guests: “Punch and cake to follow” “ A dessert reception to folllow” or “Drinks and dancing to come!”
Some couples want a specific dress-code to be followed for their big day. If you are having a black-tie wedding, this must be included on the invite. For any other dress code, you can state it at the end of the invite after the reception line.
You can also include a note on the details card of your invite suite or on your wedding website. If you do not state a dress code, guests will pick up clues from the invite through look and wording on how formal a wedding will be.
Like with any part of your wedding, choose the wording on yor invite that works with your personalities and you style of your day!
